The “R” Word

PURPOSE OF THIS POST:

We live in a patriotic society that has made many efforts to set limitations on how we embrace our divine and sacred energies. You ever heard that saying, “This is a man’s world?” Sacred Masculinity is centered around our physical environment. Divine Feminine energy connects us to spirit. If we live in a masculine world, that must mean we craft our perceptions through our physical environments and not our spirit? This brings us to the trouble with love today.

One of the first distinctions of this life is man and woman. Each playing a role in most aspects of life. When we think about the relationship man has with life, there is a divine balance between physical and spiritual. I believe today’s battle is about finding a way to help each other hold on to the vision, and better understand how we can help each other grow.

THE LOST SOUL

To bridge the gap, we must first understand the characteristics of Devine feminine and sacred masculine energies and how they work together. There is a belief that our society is being lost due to women being programmed to take on more masculine roles. If this was true, how would it misalign the purpose and power of the sacred man?

INTUITION & FOCUS

Women bring souls into this world making them the bridge between physical and spiritual. Mothers are considered to have a keen instinct when it comes to their kids. They probably know better than anyone about listening to that hunch feeling. This is because naturally women are more INTUITIVE than men. Intuition guides us from within and gives us outward understanding. YOU ALREADY KNOW when someone’s energy is off! You are weary of danger and static behavior.

Someone who has a strong intuition may struggle to capture the whole picture. This is why men who are FOCUSED tend to attract these type of females. A masculine man must be able to produce a clear visual definition of his interest. These guys have set intentions and your intuition can help stay on the right track and away from danger. All men must have a goal that is used as motivation. Men always equate suffering in the process of going after their long term goals. “Something hard to attain does not come easy.” A focused man knows how to snap back into reality and get better, but imagine if he has a woman that helps him hold his vision by protecting him from evil. No man can fail if one person believes in him!

EMOTIONS & LOGIC

Women have a Devine power to connect a man’s mind to his heart through shared EMOTIONS. That is because emotions derive from our own circumstances, moods, and relationships with people. Emotions are how we attract and connect with one another. Women have wires in their brains connecting everything and it’s driven by energy called emotion. Women like to talk about how you feel, but get bored by facts. “Where you from?”, “How old are you?” GUYS.. STOP IT!! Make more statements, tell more stories! You have to switch it up. You can’t attract love without understanding your emotions.

A man stays trapped in his own mind until he finds a woman that helps him break his own LOGIC. Men tend to be direct and problem solving oriented. When we discuss a subject we open only what is in that box inside our brain. Men who are logical feel the need to validate everything. Although logic plays a big role in the physical realm, too much of it can keep a man trapped in his own world. His own mind. He has to learn to balance logic with emotion, but many men fail to acknowledge the emotions they have. This makes the process of enlightenment much harder to attain.

THE LAW OF KARMA: “What A Man Soweth He Reaps.”

This means we must Direct Our Desire In The “Divine Right” Direction. Any personal will being forced is destined to fail.

SURRENDER & ASSERTIVENESS

Many people fail or lack the ability to submit or SURRENDER to authority. To surrender is to embody a divine feminine quality. Through surrender, we abolish unnecessary suffering. Surrender allows us to wish without worry. If we look at fear as inverted faith (belief in the bad), surrendering to it opens up space for good to come in. Because we surrender, we are able to leave behind that before and reach for that ahead. We must be like water which is considered to be the strongest element due to its lack of resistance. Besides resistance has a way of following us all.

A submissive woman will naturally gravitate to ASSERTIVE men. These are the guys who are confident and bold in their personalities. They like to take charge. They typically stand up for their beliefs without disregarding the rights of others. They are honest and direct with people when expressing their feelings, but stay open to opinions. Women love relationships with confident men. They do not bend to things around them, because there are no guessing games with assertive men. They have boundaries set and take responsibility for their actions. No woman likes to be left guessing where they stand in a man’s life. Confident men air their thoughts providing security and comfort. This shows signs of maturity because it takes great work to achieve.

MY SPIRIT LEAD LIFE

Energy has no limitations because it is beyond boundaries and understanding. Sometimes we refer to “Father” God as only masculine, and treat feminine energy as just behaviors or looks, voiding the natural order of things. When we let our mind lead our body, the body abandons the spirit. The SPIRIT leads the MIND and the MIND leads the BODY. So I ask you… How will you embrace how you receive your environments (physically or spiritually)?

HOMEWORK

What type of issues arise from my imbalance?

*WITHOUT BALANCE THERE CAN ONLY BE DESTRUCTION*

Struggle: “To make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or resist attack.”

As we cruise into a new year and we work hard to manifest our resolutions, I personally believe it is important for us to consider the definition above. STRUGGLE! I’m sure its something we can all relate to. I mean who doesn’t go through life and face certain challenges? My real question to all my readers is how do we deal with it?

I was talking to my older sister today and we had an interesting conversation about some of the things we have been going through. To sum up a really long conversation, LIFE HAPPENS AND IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE its how you go about it that separates you from the rest of the pact. I have a saying that I always use to help me cope with my struggles.

“We travel through the same pain, but we all have different struggles.”

What do I mean by that? Let me break down my thought process. I am the type of friend that everyone comes to when they are seeking advice, right? So what I learned through my own personal journey, and being trusted by others with their vulnerable truths is that life has a funny way of teaching us VALUABLE LESSONS. My mom use to always tell me after I spiraled out of control as an adolescent that I was going to learn my lesson one way or another.

I was being too hard headed to see the fault in my actions and if I don’t learn these lesson at home the world will have its way with me until I fix my vision. Not to say that everyone who goes through something like STRUGGLE deserves to be put in that situation, but rather that there are certain lessons in life that we must learn in order to grow.

I truly believe that is how God and the world works. Through collateral beauty. Sometimes things have to fall apart so they can come together in the end. Logically we don’t always understand the pain that comes behind struggle. But if it wasn’t for that pain tied to the struggle, then God’s blessings wouldn’t be as special.

For example, I dare you to go out into the world and and just listen. I bet you $100 you will find someone out there complaining about how life isn’t fair or they are always the one to point the finger like God didn’t intend for you to go through that, and it happened by mistake or something. There are lessons to be learned within the struggle.

I had to learn how to reflect over my situations no matter how bad the suffering. For my Christian believers, did Jesus not show us the beauty behind the struggle when he died on the cross? He encountered every kind of pain there was on this earth when he CARRIED HIS OWN CROSS while no one was able to step in and help him carry the load.

“The PROCESS Brings So Much Stress, But the PROGRESS Is What Feels The Best.” – Lil Wayne (Tie My Hands)

I believe that his how we should walk in our journey of life. I do believe that THE FIRE OF SUFFERING IS THE LIGHT OF CONSCIOUSNESS. It is through the dark times that we learn to love the light. Everything on this earth can be put on spectrum. Good & Bad , Night and Day, Love and Hate, even Heaven and Hell. We have to learn how to see the beauty in the struggle, in the midst of the suffering. On the other end of that, is how we will be able to see with new sight.

I personally believe that God is the oneness of life that exists in all living things. Everything has a little piece of God within it otherwise it would not have life. The trees, the water, the rocks and the animals ALL THINGS that make up this great world. But YOU share with God in his divinity.

The fact that you are living with the ABILITY TO CREATE a life of your own should be the biggest blessing that never gets taken advantage of! GOD HAND PICK YOU TO HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE. He shared with you his divine spirit so he can express a version of himself through you.

But like I said before, everything operates on a spectrum. Once you understand this, it can be easy to fall into the trap of selfishness. Living a life that is inconsiderate to other players in the game. The question that gets asked often times is “what type of change do YOU WANT TO BRING, while it should be, how can I fulfill the work that God has for me?

See we are not Gods but we are Godly beings. Because he lives through us, WE SHARE WITH HIM divine knowledge and understanding. I’ve talked about purpose in my previous posts, but to take it to a deeper level for some.. We are all given gifts that can help or hurt the world through our IMPACT we have on other players.

The journey to find this purpose is long and hard. Sometimes we have to be broken down to our bare bone and lose all that we thought we had to understand what God needs for us to understand, or as my mom would say, you gotta learn your lesson. We are powerful creatures and with that power comes great responsibility. Taken lightly, and we could cause so much damage no only to ourselves, but the lives around us.

I’m sure you know what it’s like to be around someone who is always negative in their word selection. How does that affect you? See what I’m saying. Going back to the story of Jesus.. He died so that we can be here and operate in our own free will. That in and of itself is POWERFUL. So the question then becomes, how do we know if we are moving according to our purpose?

“There Is BEAUTY IN THE STRUGGLE When You Growing Inside.” – J. Cole (Love Yourz)

Struggle has a funny way of warping our reality. When we take it personal, we often close off the chance of something great coming from it. We resist our resilience and we stray further away from the purpose God has for us. But like I said before, we all travel through the same pain, but we all have different journeys. Sometimes we have to keep getting reminded of the same lessons over and over until we learn our lesson AND imbed it into our mindset.

Prayer has been around for many years, but why do you think that is? Remember when I said you have dominion over the earth through the POWER OF CHOICE? Well, when he created the earth as our cradle for us to learn and grow, he hoped (much like our parents do) that we will see how he sees and move according to his will. How can we do that if we don’t build the foundation with him? Continue to learn from his higher knowledge?

Through prayer and patience, he allows us to tap into that divinity so that we can SHARE with him this life experience. That is what I feel like God wants from us. To have a connection with him, to share with him all the great wonders of this world. When we do that, he will honor our will and life becomes a continuous learning school, so that when we leave our souls will join the wholeness of GOD above through DIVINE RIGHT.

So I challenge you the next time God sends you a certain STRUGGLE, ask yourself, “God what is it that you would like for me to understand in the midst of this madness?” Only then will you see with new sight and move with divine right. You will be surprised what lesson may be in store for you. That is because it takes the situation away from being a personal hit on your EGO to being a catalyst for your growth.

Challenge the status quo. To struggle is to be blessed on the opposite end of the spectrum. Heaven and Hell is not a place you go, but a place in which your mind is stored daily, so why not choose to have Heaven on Earth? But hey, don’t let me take away what God himself gave to you. You have the right to choose your own life path!

So check this out.. I’ve been reading this REALLY good book. Some of you may have heard about it or even read it. In this book Dr. Myles Munroe brings so much light onto real issues that I would like to share my perspective on just one.

The book I am referring to is called, “Understanding The Purpose and Power of Men” which is where he brought up how every man gets to a point in life where he asks himself…

What is MY definition of a REAL and how do I solidify myself. So LISTENNNN lol I’m like.. 25 and I feel that subliminally.. I do ask myself that question often.

Dr. Munroe goes into further detail into why he believe many men can relate this question to their own sense of purpose. I must admit.. that currently my are I feel that I’m lacking most.

The book had me evaluating myself in a way that I couldn’t have before. One of the things I realized tonight that keeps me from my purpose is my FOCUS.

I remember in school I use to have to take medicine to help with 2 things particular. 1.) Focus and SIT STILL. I’m sure a lot of you can relate. lol I thought about those times today as I was sitting in my car watching the full moon.

I realized that I struggled sometimes with maintaining friendships/ relationships because I never adjusted my focus. THE VALUE IN BEING ABLE TO DO SO!

It’s almost New Years so I’ve been trying to get into and knock off some of my habits early.

I told myself I want to focus on the things that matter to me the most. Like I said, I’m 25 and I feel like I’ve been going nowhere fast for a REALLY long time.

I started going through my phone and looked at all the text messages from GOD knows how many people lol but I realized in that moment… I’ve been giving up little bits of my time to so many people. There is no way my friendships could flourish with sooooo much going on.

I had to ask myself “what’s real” and decided that my contacts that still remain… that is where I will put my focus in 2021 on a personal level. My focus will be set on the growth of each one of those.

I challenged you all to dig deep and self discover. Focus on something that you KNOW FOR A FACT you want outta this life. I challenge you to align your steps with what you want to prosper.

It’s a new year! But everyday is a new day. This year I challenge YOU to get 1% better each day. I will be doing the same so join me! Let’s you and I decide TODAY To make a collective effort to better ourselves 1% more each day for the next 367 days!

I use to hate the fact that I would always have to learn things the hard way. No matter how hard I tried to do things the simple way. I’m a Virgo so I can be very analytical and spectacle at time. If I don’t understand the purpose behind what I’m doing, then I have a hard time accepting it.

I enjoy learning about the fundamentals of everything I do because I know that it is essential before moving forward. In school, sports and even in my relationships with people, I always took the long route.

Everyone thinks in terms of efficiency and timing. If you ask me I’d blame amazon prime for people behaving so privileged. I just always felt like speed took away from effectiveness and distorts the value of a good thing when it is rushed.

To have something is good, but to understand it is better. My mother use to tell me, “Sometimes you have to get through the mess to get the message.” She could not have been more right about that simple fact.

I have seen many troublesome days in my past and I’m embrace the troublesome days to come. I believe that the bottle has breed more successors than the top ever has. Why? Well that can be a loaded answer, but I’d say it is because they dint fear the work.

A lot of people fall in love with a dream that they have no intention of ever capturing. That is why the dark days seem so unbearable to those who fancy themselves with their words but lack a certain discipline. Nothing in life worth having comes free besides love.

Everyone comes into the world knowing no wrong, but as babies, the mind soaks up information like a sponge. As we grow older, we pull from these thoughts and experiences and we have what is called applied knowledge. For some, this may be getting burned on the stove after hearing your mother tell you to stay away several times. for others, this may be something as harsh as spending time in YDC. Whatever the nature of the lesson, smart people continue to learn from the good and the bad that happens within their life.

To me, this is the most rewarding gift, the ability to make our own choices and decide for ourselves what an ideal life is and what steps we are willing or not willing to take to get there. What we have is a reflection of what we give. If you have a bad name, you have given the world that impression. If you have riches, then you can be sure someone has given that necessary time. The dream is free, but the hustle is sold separately. You have to make the choice to do what is right for you and that only happens when you are sure of who you are.

I was reading a book called, “The Ideal Team Player” by Patrick Lencioni. This book brought me to a very interesting question. How do we recognize someone as a leader? How do we know someone is a friend? I’ve learned that people can talk all day about how crappy someone else is something, but many people fail to judge themselves to the same degree. Much like children, we learned best based on what we see. How we act when we are out in public or how we treat others will influence how the world will see us.

Every day when we go out, we rep our brand. From a collegiate standpoint, look at it like this. You wear your education every time you step outside of your school and you tell someone about your educational institution. They judge the school based on their interaction with you. Another example is if your family has a reputation in the community, then you are a reflection of the household name. We create our brand every day whether we want to or not. The perks of knowing who you are are that you never have to get caught up in what other people have to say about you. No one can offend you, and those who try have no credibility behind their opinion in regards to you.

When you get in front of who you are, life begins to loosen its grip and become more simple. Continue to learn and teach others who are going where you have been. Find out who you are and build a community of like-minded thinkers

I remember growing up, my mom use to get mad at me and my 4 brothers whenever we did anything bad or failed to complete some sort of task. For us, that could be anything from not dusting off the furniture or something like getting in trouble at school.

My mom had the look that always let you know you messed up and you never really knew to what measure she was going to take it. So we tried out best not to piss her off because we knew when she gets mad she not easy to be around.

Me personally, I use to get so frustrated when people use to call slow or rejected me in any kind of way. I’m thankful for the growth along the way because now I understand how dangerous stored anger can be.

I use to black-out in middle school when I got into fights with other people. I was never the type to stay in trouble unless it was overly socializing in class or misbehaving during certain times of the day, but every December I go in trouble.

I remember feeling like I didn’t have control over myself like someone else took over and said let me handle this battle for you and I just shifted into darkness until I woke up and the guy’s faces were damaged.

It wasn’t until I learned how to reflect on my emotions and really feel them at the moment when I realized the power our emotions have. Anger can be the most destructive one of them all because of how close it sits to ego and pride.

I found out that there was a direct connection between how I mad I got when people called me slow and me actually believing it was true. I felt exposed when people did that and it would cause me to act out of character.
I always felt like I had to defend myself and stand my ground so that no one would ever humiliate me by exposing my intellectual insecurities. This thought and carries so much weight that it became a trigger for me.

I say all that to say this, we aren’t promised a good day every day. But as long as we continue to live, we can pray for a better day to come. But what do we do In that moment of truth when our emotions spiral out of control?
How do we feel our emotions without losing control over ourselves and our behaviors? It’s kind of a loaded question right? So how do we answer it?

The answer is that we have to understand emotion is nothing but energy in motion. What sends these feelings on their way is our own thought and identification with the subject matter. So what if we became.. unattached!

What does it mean to be unattached to our emotions? Well, have you ever met one of those people who are so gifted that they can make you laugh in the middle of a sad moment? The person I’m referring to probably knows you well.

So well that they have learned how to get your mind off something that you feel so attached to at the moment. This might be losing a lover or not having money for lunch or anything! They know how to bring you out of that moment of disparity.

When you become unattached yo your emotions you pay attention to how they make you feel but you don’t allow them to control your next love. Be proactive and not reactive!

In my free time I occasionally treat myself to a movie or tv series of some sort. As of recently , I
found myself watching “Love is Blind” on Netflix . This series tests the question, is love truly
blind ? Are social , economical , demographically , religious , and social structures no barriers for
true love ? In this social experiment single bachelors and bachelorhood agree to date blindly in
isolated speed dates in hopes of finding their one. The ten episode series had me in a frenzy of
emotions watching these people take a leap of faith. Ultimately, as i got more engaged in the
film i realized something that was inadequate with the relationships. The ones who walked out
the experiment successfully were the couples who shared the same love languages or knew
how to accommodate their partners needs.

There’s essentially five love languages . Stick around and figure out which one fits you or
whomever it may be. Don’t hesitate to do your own research.

1.Words of Affirmation:
This most effective means of communication is to encourage , appreciate /praise, and actively
listen. This may look like verbal compliments for reassurance. Or random text messages or
notes. It is best to refrain from not making an effort to appreciate that person.

2.Physical Touch :
Apparently, the body is not an off limit zone for those who exempt this love language. In fact ,
body language and touch are instruments to express love. Intimacy , hugs, kisses ,cuddling are
all appropriate behaviors. To keep the peace , avoid physical neglect ,torture ,and abuse .

3.Receiving Gifts :
Special occasions that involves gifts being exchanged
are ideal. Christmas , birthdays , anniversary, and celebrations excite these natives. Thoughtful
gifts and expressions of gratitude are satisfying. Avoid forgetting special occasions or lack
thoughtfulness in gifts.

4.Quality Time :
The most important factor in this language is the present. It’s all about taking in the exchange of
space with two entities without interruption and focused one on one time. Do something that
that person will enjoy big or small. Whether that be a walk in the park or bowling night.

5:Acts of Service :
This language is all about taking initiative. Just do it ! Express that you want to help freely and
do what you say. An example of this may be to cook breakfast for your partner. The last thing
you want to do to this type of person is to not act or fall inadequate at your performances.

These are some practical rules of love that some of you may or may not have heard over. For the ones who do not know about this, take your time to discover what kind over lover you are. After you know that, star looking at the kind of lover you wish to be. Understanding these concepts can save you a lot of rainy days. Experiences sometimes blur our vision to the point we cannot even see ourselves. Therefore, it is important to not only understand ourselves, but each other as well.

You ever catch yourself running away from something you know deep down is meant for you? That might be just me and a couple more of you out there. Whether it be staying dedicated in your studies to get that A, or doing what’s necessary to reach your full potential. I’m talking to you. I can relate because for me, I use to struggle with my relationships with people. I always went into this phase of solitude and had a tough time expressing my emotions and how I felt. The problem was obvious, I would always run away from people who loved me the most. Why I did that was the mystery I started searching for.

I’m sure that some of the reason had to do with my past experiences with love. I learned that sometimes how you view yourself isn’t always how others view you. You may have a higher or lower view of yourself. But at some point, you must gather a wholistic view of what others say and what you think of yourself and make adjustments. Your vision for yourself has to match your reputation and image. I learned that sometimes in a toxic situation, you have to have this kind of thinking. You have to be able to look at your flaws and measure how they fuel the other person’s flames. Love is reasonable scenario for this example.

As a man, I know I use to drive ALL my girlfriends crazy. I was just being myself and being natural in the way I showed love. This view was easy to see. As people, we can always remember when we’ve done good for someone else, but we hardly recognize how good people are to use. I didn’t consider all the times I ignored calls or didn’t check in. I thought that’s as long as treated her good I was doing my part. In my next post I will go into depth about what I learned about myself and the flaws in the views I’m expressing right now. It is important that all people know how to love, but it is as equally important to know how not to love as well. Sometimes we break hearts that don’t deserve to be broken. It doesn’t mean we are bad people, it just means we are incapable at the time and need to make positive changes.

If I can encourage you to do anything, it is to stop running away and deal with whatever is holding you back. There is so much on the other side of fear. The thing we don’t understand about fear is that 100% of it is self inflicted through how we think about ourselves. It might not seem like it, but how we view people is how we view ourselves. Nothing comes from running unless we are escaping who we are not and running towards who we are meant to be. Before you get involved with someone else, always be sure to check for who you really are and determine honestly if you are ready. We all fighting demons, but how we handle them is what makes all the difference. We have to be resilient and consistent in who we are. If we don’t know who we are yet, we must keep striving to find out.

Okay so there I was, a whole 2 and a half month through what I fell is going to be my breakout year. I’m talking everything from balanced fitness diet and workout plans, living up my last semester with my college friends and preparing for a new job that will catapult my sales career. BOY was I wrong about how this year was going to end up. Little did everyone consciously living through this time know, it was over before it started.

You remember in grade school you would have to sit through history class and hear about things like the Black Plague and the Great Depression and things of that nature? Yea, well me too, and I realized that we living through history ourselves. Like really, yea our grandparents and them had a hard life without mobility and tech, but I can’t help but think that we are writing a long history book ourselves.

I wonder if history flew by this fast in the past. One second I’m bringing in the new year with my girl then next day boom! I just got word we dropped an Air strike. Like hold up, woah, okay, this isn’t a dream. I kid you not, I was prepared for a crazy year. Little did I know, it was about to get even more crazy. If trump actually winning presidency wasn’t crazy enough, he actually got DENIED his impeachment. As if word of a Russian internet hacking agency isn’t enough to draw skepticism.

The political world ain’t the only ones who had their heart crushed this year. we lost a historical figure and leader when we speak about Kobe and GiGi Bryant’s death. Although it was very fulfilling how they got to spend their last hours together, a HELICOPTER!? So much of that just doesn’t make sense to me, but I digress.

I’m also frustrated at the fact that we spent out whole lives fearing a zombie or alien apocalypse only to find out that our lives changed all because of a virus that has symptoms of a common cold. I’m just saying, this is some historical stuff we are talking about here. It doesn’t just happen everyday. We live such a fast life that we rarely ever stop to look and see all that has been done.

Even in that, I feel like this is going to be a great year and we will all survive. The world is starving because of loss and havoc. That is why we must feed it love continuously. The world isn’t perfect but it’s worth being proud of. We won’t always have it all, but we can be grateful for having what we do. I think the world is trying to get us to step back and look at the bigger picture. The corona virus is worth being cautious, but in that cause, look at the effect. People who spend time on the road often are spending times with their family again and working from home. This can force our hand in mobility platforms and be a breakthrough for work life balance. I don’t know though. I just try to look at the post it is side of things and it usually helps me survive.